Gmail, Yahoo and privacy

Just looking for some informed opinions here if you happen to be well versed on this topic:
Recently a software program I have written and distributed has become the focus of a group attack
by three or four online forum members (else where, not this forum) they claim it contains
malware internet toolbars, calling home with god knows what, and one
guy is saying his computer is locking and his web cam is being accessed, strange things happening,
saying anti-virus software is isolating it ? but when I run the same anti-virus checker over it
expecting a false positive it reports the software is clean ? these are just some examples
Another tactic of one guy is to say he is getting 1000+ spams a day and its crippling his email accounts,
he reported today he has recieved 790+ spam just this morning ? and has been in contact with
yahoo & gmail and claims they are monitoring my activities very carefully ?
sounds like a breach of privacy to me ? (if its true)
I have no idea how to send spam, I thought that would be something conducted in foreign countries with slack laws.
Do you thing a black van will pull up outside my place at 6am, and a bunch of guys with gmail on the back of there jackets will
force my door and seize my computer and for that matter my computer collection
(Im not going to name the software or anything like that as I don't want the troll's to google there way
to this message about it just in case.)
I know that the one thing about gmail watching is true as one of my gmail accounts mysteriously disappeared,
not only that, shortly later a member of this (other) forum reported that gmail had taken down (some) email account(s)
of mine, further evidence that gmail had accessed and read my emails, and he said gmail had been monitoring
my online activities very closely since the beginning of this year ! ( and I had never mentioned the disappearing
email account until now) this is prove positive that gmail has accessed my gmail and had a look inside, where
there is private information, like my Apple Developers account password and my Google App stores account
details and some other personal emails, which I had not yet saved and removed from the email account
(should have done it ages ago).
Because I am 100% certain gmail have accessed my email accounts and read my mail, im going to drop gmail like a rock
How could I take this privacy breach further ? any ideas ?
And as we know Google and Yahoo are next to impossible to contact ?
Recently a software program I have written and distributed has become the focus of a group attack
by three or four online forum members (else where, not this forum) they claim it contains
malware internet toolbars, calling home with god knows what, and one
guy is saying his computer is locking and his web cam is being accessed, strange things happening,
saying anti-virus software is isolating it ? but when I run the same anti-virus checker over it
expecting a false positive it reports the software is clean ? these are just some examples

Another tactic of one guy is to say he is getting 1000+ spams a day and its crippling his email accounts,
he reported today he has recieved 790+ spam just this morning ? and has been in contact with
yahoo & gmail and claims they are monitoring my activities very carefully ?
sounds like a breach of privacy to me ? (if its true)
I have no idea how to send spam, I thought that would be something conducted in foreign countries with slack laws.
Do you thing a black van will pull up outside my place at 6am, and a bunch of guys with gmail on the back of there jackets will
force my door and seize my computer and for that matter my computer collection

(Im not going to name the software or anything like that as I don't want the troll's to google there way
to this message about it just in case.)
I know that the one thing about gmail watching is true as one of my gmail accounts mysteriously disappeared,
not only that, shortly later a member of this (other) forum reported that gmail had taken down (some) email account(s)
of mine, further evidence that gmail had accessed and read my emails, and he said gmail had been monitoring
my online activities very closely since the beginning of this year ! ( and I had never mentioned the disappearing
email account until now) this is prove positive that gmail has accessed my gmail and had a look inside, where
there is private information, like my Apple Developers account password and my Google App stores account
details and some other personal emails, which I had not yet saved and removed from the email account
(should have done it ages ago).
Because I am 100% certain gmail have accessed my email accounts and read my mail, im going to drop gmail like a rock

How could I take this privacy breach further ? any ideas ?
And as we know Google and Yahoo are next to impossible to contact ?